No, I Haven’t Seen Both Sides

“Oh since you’re trans, you know what it’s like to be both a boy and a girl!” Incorrect. Sure, I have insight into the male world in that I know what locker room talk is, I know all their expectations and did in fact conform to a lot of them. I butched up hard in an attempt to blend in. But they always saw through it. If I got a cis guy experience, then it was as a “sissy faggot” who envied women but was so scared of men that I’d butch up if that’s what they expected of me. … Continue reading No, I Haven’t Seen Both Sides

Why Transitioning Can Often Feel Like a Fetish

One thing I get asked frequently by trans women early in transition is the question of whether their gender identity is just a fetish. And ya know I started out only crossdressing in the bedroom. So it made me wonder if that’s all it was too? But this really has more to do with the way society paints trans women, and there are a few reasons for that: Lack of Nonsexualized Representations in MediaWe could talk about the fact that trans women – especially trans women of color – were barred from employment for so long (and still are to … Continue reading Why Transitioning Can Often Feel Like a Fetish